Attractive, single and passed over. We all know women that fit that mold. The question is why? And if asked why they’re single, a common answer is that men don’t approach them. There are several variables on why a man may choose not to approach a woman; here are a few common reasons.
He can’t get your attention – A myriad of things can prevent this from happening. If you’re constantly on the move throughout an event, entertaining too many people or you’re in an isolated location, it can make it impossible to even bump into you or send you a drink. Whatever the reason, he can’t get in proximity to crack a smile, make eye contact, or start a conversation.
He wants to avoid the pack – Few things are more intimidating than walking into a pack of women and having to deal with the group spokeswoman. “We’re just here to have a good time with each other, we’re fine.” “Thank you,” as she shoos you along. Or, she wants to grill him with questions when he’s simply trying to introduce himself. Secondary problem of the pack, if he approaches he may get distracted by another person of interest in it. It’s safer to just abort mission.
To avoid looking awkward – Sometime the places men see women they’d like to approach, are not ideal places or times; for example; in the gym, on your commute, in the grocery store, in line at the local coffee spot. In the past men would have approached anyway, but after numerous articles, television/movies scenes, and many complaints on social media about men approaching/ interrupting such activities, men have become apprehensive.
He doesn’t want to be that dude –You’ve smiled, been friendly, even flirted and still nothing. Chances are he doesn’t want to be “that” guy– the one who mistakes attention from a woman as an opportunity.
No man wants to be the guy who tries to ask you out, only to find out you’re just being friendly.
We have a right to be confused about whether or not to approach a woman because everything we do in this day and age is considered thirsty. If he can’t read whether you’re being friendly or genuinely interested, he’ll pass.
His intentions, his circumstances – It all boils down to what he’s looking for and who seems most receptive. If you look like a relationship type of woman, but he’s looking for a hookup, pass. If he doesn’t think he meets your standards or will give him a fair shot, pass. For example, you seem to only like executive types, yet he’s blue collared, pass. Approaching women is about projecting confidence. If he has no good intentions for you or doesn’t meet your standard; you’ve dodged a bullet.
Ladies we constantly hear how today’s women are bold, daring and modern. So don’t only be that when it’s convenient, and then revert to traditional when it’s not in your favor. If you’re not getting the attention you want, shoot your shot. Approach the man you want and get his attention, send him a drink, ask him to dance, take his phone and put your number in it. He’ll bite; you’ve put the ball in his court. None of the reasons above are your fault, but these are ways that you can swing things in your favor.
Written By: Johnny Brownlee II
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