A father’s love and presence in the home is just as important as mom’s. Sadly, most of them get left out of the ‘Thank you, Mom,’ speeches.
Love or rejection from mothers and fathers equally affects a child’s development, emotional stability, behavior and outlook on life. “But in some cases, the withdrawal of a father’s love seems to play a bigger role in kids’ problems with personality and psychological adjustment, delinquency, and substance abuse,” says study co-author Ronald P. Rohner, Ph.D., director of the Center for the Study of Parental Acceptance and Rejection at the University of Connecticut in Storrs.
In addition to money and other resources, a father provides a solid foundation and sound guidance for his children. Children need to see constant, positive behavior from their father.
If a son watches his father come home from work grunting and complaining, not speaking to anyone in the house, closing himself up in the room and spending absorbent amounts of time outside of the home with friends, that is what the son will learn to do. Fathers must realize they are setting an example of the type of man they wish for their young men to be.
If a little girl goes on dates with daddy to the park, movies and skating rinks, she will know and understand that her mate should think highly enough of her to spend time with her. Conversely, if she watches her father abuse her mother, talk down to her and never compliment her, the chances of her own spouse mimicking the same poor behaviors will not only be expected, but misconstrued as love.
Your babies need to know that while they should strive for their hopes and dreams, not reaching them is not the end of the world. They need to feel loved, but that love must be unconditional. A father’s love should never be based on whether they make touchdowns or land the drum major position in the high school band. No matter what, fathers should always be a pillar of encouragement and motivation.
Written By: Carla Dupont Huger