As our girl Tamar Braxton-Herbert famously says “Stay wit’ it!” we parents need to do the same in our conversation with our kids. When we are mad and in our feelings, our mouths may overtake us. The rant may even be justified but the messenger can overshadow the message. Nothing is more gratifying to a parent to have told their child something and to know that they were right. Then the opportunity to vocalize that presents itself. Listen, kids will be kids until they have kids. So it doesn’t matter how old they are, they will always think they know better than you. “You’ll never understand”, are often words that they utter. They will always act like you came onto the scene as an adult and didn’t go through any of the stages they now are at. So don’t be upset when they roll their eyes and seem like they aren’t paying you any mind when you get into a rant, or two or three.
While you may be tempted to give example after example after example, don’t do it. Your child will better grasp your point if you stick to the point and not run on for hours.
Remember how it was when your mother, aunts, and grandmother would gang up on you at the same time to prove a point when you did something crazy? This is how you come across to your child when you don’t stop talking for hours and days about the mistake they made. Doing this will cause them to do what ever it is you’re moaning about again and again just to annoy you. At that point they’re not listening anyway so it’s not like they subjecting themselves to anything. Parents, stay wit’ it!
For everything there is a reason, or a season. Sometimes you may have to ramble off one Dr. Maya Angelou’s speeches, just for emphasis sake, but don’t make a habit of it. Learn how to be short, sweet and to the point. Don’t get caught up in the message and lose the audience. Trust your parents, they will not steer you wrong
Written by: Joyanne Lawrence, Staff Writer, Modern Domestic