Although relationships aren’t something you should rush into, nobody wants to wait forever to be in one. If you’re wondering how long you should stick around for the one you love, we have a few suggestions to take into consideration while trying to determine if it’s game over or not.
When dealing with most situations, it’s sometimes best to let everything evolve naturally. Even so, there are times when you have to face the music and take matters into your own hands. Life is all about progression, so if it seems like things aren’t gradually moving forward at a steady pace in the dating department, you need to evaluate your standards and those who you choose to date.
Keep the lines of communication open. The first and most important advice in knowing when it’s time to walk away or stay is to keep the lines of communication open. Don’t be afraid to ask the uncomfortable questions in fear that you’ll get your feelings hurt, because it will be much worse to discover those answers later on. Find out what your mate is looking for in a woman and what his intentions are with you. A man that has no intentions is equivalent to having bad intentions and if he has no intentions, he isn’t ready to seriously pursue you. Pay attention to what is being said. Are you even compatible? Use the information you learn to determine if it’s worth moving forward or not. Don’t ignore warning signs in hopes to change him. After all, you might lose a lover but gain a friend.
When they show you who they are, believe them. Actions literally speak louder than words, so if your guy’s actions show you he doesn’t want to be with you, believe him. A person may not always tell you what they think, but their actions will show you. Inconsistency shows disinterest and if he’s truly interested, but doesn’t show it, he may need a little more time to grow. Maturity can’t be rushed, but that doesn’t mean that you’re supposed to just wait around for him. Don’t be afraid to set standards and limitations to your love.
Love has no instructions but you have intuition. The thing about love is that it doesn’t come with instructions or an alarm clock. You have to look at the big picture and choose what is best for you. Try looking at it this way: there are 365 days in a year and every day is a new opportunity to learn each other more and grow together. Of course, there are other things to consider (like how long you’ve known the person and the dynamic of your relationship), but if after a year of dating there aren’t conversations about getting into a committed relationship, don’t commit any more of your time or feelings into it.
The principle here is simple: it doesn’t take forever to realize if you want to be with a person. It isn’t about giving ultimatums; it’s about walking away from someone who doesn’t appreciate, understand, or hasn’t realized your worth yet. Here’s to knowing your worth!
Written By: Nyia Moore