In relationships, some compare the 90-day rule to a sexual probationary period similar to that of a new job position. The thought behind it is that when one waits 90 days before having sex, you will begin to see the real person you’re dating instead of their “representative.” Media man Steve Harvey certainly believes in a woman waiting for 90 days for sex, as stated in his book, “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man.” However, some men have retaliated on social media with memes such as this one:
EGL took to social media to see what people really think of these rules!
Imia, from Chicago, states: “90-day rules are really pointless. Do it when you are ready– not when the calendar tells you to. No, I wouldn’t be with a man who waited 90 days to spend money on me. I don’t do ‘Netflix and chill’ (even that includes food, which costs). And I live in Chicago, so no walks in the park or picnics for eight out of the 12 months… that doesn’t even make sense!”
“I think having a set amount of time to wait is dumb. All he has to do is wait 90 days and he’s guaranteed sex. He can fill his sexual needs with other women in the meantime. 90 days have passed, and he still dogs a woman out afterward. While I do not have an exact length of time; I think a woman should wait it out some time before sex. I think giving it up too fast can be a detriment to laying the foundation of a long lasting relationship. There are different types of men out here. Some will wife you after smashing the first night. It’s a new world, and one just has to do what’s best for them and their heart.” –Pierre, Miami, FL.
Andrew, of Memphis, TN, thinks, “If women enact the 90-day moratorium on sex, than men should do the same thing for spending money on her. If you’re trying to find out if she likes you, or he likes you for you then take away what’s important to them. For men it’s sex, for women it’s money, and either option will expose people’s true feelings.”
Kimberly, of Chicago, says, “I never had a 90-day rule. My rule is that I’m not having sex with any man until we are in a bonafide relationship. However long it takes for us to agree that we are in an exclusive relationship, that is how long he’ll have to wait for sex.”
Many women actually said that they could date a man for 90 days without him having to spend money. Interestingly enough, some men said they would wait 90 days before having sex, but would still be intimate with someone else until that point…
Written By: Chanelle Woods