Before you walk down the aisle, you should be friends first. That is evidenced by the pride couples have when they say they are marrying their best friend. But somehow in marriage, with all of the time that passes and the added expanse of responsibility, spouses can easily lose sight of the friendship. Here are five ways to strengthen the friendship inside your marriage.
Spend Time Together
This seems like a no brainer, but we are talking quality time here. Get away from distractions, especially the ones that technology provides. Find out what’s going on with your lover and be in tune with how his needs are changing.
Well, duh! Having fun and spending time together can easily go hand in hand. As you grow and mature, your needs and interests will change, as his will too. Take a cooking class or go to a wine tasting. Do things that will allow you to be one-on-one with each other while creating new experiences.
Only talking to your spouse in passing or over text can easily misconstrue messages. Pick up the phone to talk to him. When you see him, take the time to listen and understand where he is coming from, rather than only talking about your needs and wants.
Greet each other with a kiss whenever you see each other. Hold hands in the movies. Get busy in the sheets – or out of them. Touching makes you feel so in tune with a person, and who more necessary to have that connection with than the man you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Prayer and worship forges a bond unlike any other. You both are stronger to handle the challenges that you are dealt when you are spiritually yoked.
There are many ways for couples to get back to the basics of friendship. Find what works for you and your spouse and begin rebuilding the friendship today!
Written By: Carla DuPont Huger