In an insecure relationship, both parties aren’t fully trustworthy on the strength of their relationship. Both of you may lead your own independent lives and have your own friends. And as much as you try to convince your partner that you’re loyal, your partner may always assume you’re cheating or are interested in someone else. You can help your partner to a certain extent, but beyond a point, you can’t do much but let go.
One of the best ways to understand relationship insecurities is to understand the root of the problem. Insecurities usually stem from the lack of attention you receive from your partner. Women like small gestures. Men like that you’re interested in what he’s interested in. When you’re feeling like you’re not being heard or understood, it’s time to speak up.
But before you voice your insecurities, be certain that it’s something your partner can reasonably change. It’s alright to ask your boyfriend to pay more attention to you when he’s with his friends or to ask your girlfriend to watch the game with you. Asking for changes within their personality and how they view you, which in turn reflects how they treat you, can be a challenge.
Most times, simple, logical thinking can resolve issues. Negative thoughts breed negative results. It’s a simple concept: both of you are attracted to each other and love each other, so why would you want to snoop around or look for ways to catch your partner red handed? Learn to trust your partner, unless you have solid reasons to doubt them.
In the event that the insecurities reign true to the actions of your partner, cut them off. Relationships are about compromise and growth as a couple. If the actions of one or both partners are bringing nothing but negativity to your relationship, it isn’t the best situation to stay in. Honestly, trust and loyalty will always be the top three requests in a relationship. If those requirements aren’t being met, it’s on to the next.
Written By: Faith Stewart