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Photo Credit: [untitled photo of child with trophy]. (N.D). Retrieved February 23, 2016 from
Do you sometimes feel guilty about telling your child no when they want to do something? Are you busy strategizing and planning for the well being of your beloved offspring? Are you sometimes more upset about being strict when you look at the face of disappointment frowning back at you? Well congratulations you’re a full fledge, card-carrying member of Raising a Winner- The Advanced Class.

All you have to do is turn on the news in your local area to see the challenges that our children have to face that we never, ever had to. If it’s not bad enough that you want to wrap them from head to toe in bubble wrap and secretly peek around every corner, now you have to worry about all the other ills of the world that can consume them if you’re not on top of your game. So the word NO rolls off your tongue more frequently than you’d like and you’re beginning to sound more and more like ……. *pause, cringe* …. Your mother.

Raising a child to be a successful, decent human being is not easy. As they grow older, their intelligence may even be used against you. Try reasoning with the brilliant child, who you groomed to be brilliant, about their bedtime. I know I’ve gotten the response, “ Well I AM an A student” …. What do you do then? After all, they do have a point. But remind them of why they are a good student and how they got there. It wasn’t because you allowed them to bend the rules whenever they performed well, but because you guided them onto this path that remains consistent. You don’t have to be militant, but allowing your child to frequently talk you out of boundaries is defeating the purpose of them being there in the first place.

Consistent good behavior, good grades and a stellar attitude all deserve recognition. But these things are the expectations not one-off exceptions. No one should be surprised at how well your child is doing because … that’s their job.

With all the negativity and influence around, how do you raise a winner in today’s world? With lots of love, prayer and communication. You are not going to get it right all the time so don’t beat yourself up when things don’t go as planned. Having open lines of communication about boundaries, why they have them and your expectations, will start you all on a successful path. In order to have a strong house, it requires a solid foundation. So be the precise brick layer! Your child will thank you for it.

Written by: Joyanne Lawrence, Staff Writer, Modern Domestic


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