Meet. Date. Relationship…or at least that’s how the stages of relationships used to go. Now when two people meet, they go through this stage called “talking.” For some people, it’s confusing when they ask their friend if the guy they brought to the family cookout is someone they’re dating and they respond with, “No, we’re just talking.” Some people tend to view talking to someone as dating because they don’t know what “talking” actually is. What exactly is “talking?”
According to urbandictionary.com, the talking stage is defined as: “The stage in which you are still single but interested in another person and vice versa. This ends when the dating stage begins.” Two people like each other and are getting to know each other better, but are not exclusive with each other, nor have they established what they are as a couple. Sounds confusing, right?
Well, the point of the talking stage is to get to know someone before actually wanting to officially date them. With the better-safe-than-sorry attitude that most Millennials have, has this “talking” stage become an official relationship stage? Here’s what a couple people had to say about talking:
Roy, 25, from Illinois stated that, “There are different stages of relationships, and talking is definitely an important stage. I want to get to know some things about her before I spend money on her.”
Lisa, 24 from Illinois feels indifferently stating that, “Talking is just a stage guys created so they can still be single and do their own thing, while having you get attached. They love the fact that you can’t tell anyone you guys are dating so they can still be on the market to other girls. I’m not wasting my time “talking” to anyone; it’s not a stage at all to me. If you’re interested in me you better express to me that you want to date.”
Chris, 25, from Illinois feels like, “They’re the same thing, talking and dating; there’s really no difference except the title. Women dislike this stage so much because it seems less secure, while dating kind of gives you both a status so she’ll know where she stands with the guy. I honestly think the talking stage is just another name for the dating stage.”
While talking may not be an official stage to everyone, it definitely is to most. It seems the idea was created to save people time from having to go out with a person that may be no good for them. Yet, the problem with “talking” is that there’s no clear way to differentiate between it and the dating stage. The stage is confusing to say the least, and can lead to outcomes such as friends with benefits or another complicated situationship.”
What are your thoughts on the talking stage? Is it an official stage or should it be skipped? Leave your thoughts below.
By: Kahina Ray