“Hey! I’m a woman and I hate having lot of sex!” — said by no woman ever. When we think of men and sex we think of “things men can’t live without” or “the main things that men want” or something similar to this. When it comes to women, we will probably think something along the lines of “women need emotional connections for sex”. While neither of these statements are necessarily false, it puts an emphasis on the idea that men are more sexual creatures than women. Why are men seen as so much more sexual than women? A stereotype that has been plaguing the minds of humans for decades points to the notion that men have a higher sex drive than women to answer that question. Well we’re not so okay with this widespread belief, so we did a little research to dig a bit deeper into this, and men after our findings, you might want to make sure you’re prepared before you go looking for a freak. Keep reading below to find out three reasons why women having a lower sex drive than men can potentially be a myth.
- Societal and cultural factors play a part in women’s sexual behaviors. Research shows that women are more inclined to adapt their sexual behavior to the norms and rules of society, thus ignoring their sexual impulses. These impulses aren’t reported to be milder or less frequent than men, they’re just less acted upon due to fear of being ridiculed. In other words, we’d rather avoid your classic case of The Scarlet Letter.
- Sexologists have studied humans and animals, and have came to a controversial conclusion: women want sex just as much as men, if not more, and it’s not driven by any emotional or mental need. Read author Daniel Bergner’s book What Do Women Want? Adventures in the Science of Female Desire for a more in depth analysis. Bergner’s book basically erases any idea of women not having a high sex drive.
- Most leading textbooks on sexuality point to the idea that women’s sex drives are equal to men. Some even speculate that women actually have a stronger sex drive. While most people will argue that it’s a scientific fact that men have more sexual desires, it’s actually not. Sorry men.
Obviously, this notion of men being more sexual is just another act of male dominance. There’s little to no evidence that supports men as being more sexual. With the thousands of stereotypes and slut shaming that stop women from showing their true colors, it’s hard to actually say women are less sexual. In reality, we are just a little less open about it. Perhaps that’s the beauty of being a women, that we can keep our sex a mystery and still be sexy, that we can go out in to the streets and be as ladylike as we want to be, but be a complete sex animal behind closed doors.
Written By: Kahina Ray