Your boyfriend believes “what’s mine is for my eyes only,” but you work hard to look good and see nothing wrong with showing off a little skin. It wasn’t a big issue when the two of you first started dating but now every time you post a pic he thinks is too sexy, he expects you to delete it.
You want the relationship, but your man’s old-fashioned principles are beginning to make you feel too controlled. If this is you, the best thing to do in this situation is prioritize. Figure out what’s most important to you and whose attention matters to you most. Is it your man’s or the Gram’s? Is your boo worth losing over some likes and followers?
It’s important to realize your boyfriend’s desire to limit your display of the goods could be coming from a sensible place. On the flip side, his objections could be implications of jealousy and underlying insecurities. If this relationship is one you really wish to keep, then those issues must be addressed. Here are a few tips for overcoming the insecurity that is being masked as old-fashioned.
Communicate! Figure out the exact cause of the issue. In this case, what exactly does your boyfriend approve and disapprove of when it comes to exposing your body online? Remember, you can’t create solutions without identifying the problem at hand.
Negotiate some relationship ground rules. This will help with managing differences and taking accountability. Be sure that both of your needs are being met when establishing what’s tolerable and what’s not. Whatever you land on, make sure it’s something that you and your mate are comfortable with.
Stop comparing what y’all have to what else is out there. Understand that what’s okay in your relationship may be different from the next. The key is finding a balance that works for you two.
We recognize that social media has added a whole new dynamic to the dating scene. No matter what, stay true to your values and respect those of your mate in the process.
By: Lauren McRae