Is your boyfriend having a hard time accepting your friendship with your gay bestie? Well, you are not alone. It’s common for men to think platonic friendship between guys and girls is impossible, even if the guy is gay! So yes, getting your boyfriend to accept such a close friendship with another man is a challenge; but it can be done. If you truly want to keep both of these men in your life, keep reading and follow these easy tips:
- Get to the root of the issue. You must realize there are likely issues of jealousy and insecurity that you and your boyfriend will need to unmask and address. You two can do this by talking it out and asking questions. Get to the root of this issue by asking your boyfriend what exactly it is that bothers him about you having a gay male best friend.
- Put yourself in his shoes. Think about how you would feel if the tables were turned. Most girls would be more than hesitant about their man being best friends with a lesbian. So cut your man some slack and try to be understanding of his feelings so that the two of you can meet on common ground.
- No ultimatums. Control less and compromise more! That goes for the both of you. If your boyfriend is uncomfortable with you and your gay bestie going out for drinks, for instance, invite him along. After a couple of Taco Tuesdays in West Hollywood, your boyfriend will understand he has nothing to worry about. As awkward as it may seem initially, the three of you spending time together can really help your boyfriend understand the dynamic of this friendship.
Your friendship with your gay bestie should not be a concern for your boyfriend. Reassure your boyfriend that he is your number one priority and the only man that has captured your heart.
Written By: Lauren McRae