Being in a relationship holds a mirror up to you. Sometimes who we think we are and who we actually are is completely different. Self love, self awareness, goals and personal successes need to be established before entering a relationship.
Many wonder what self-love really is. By definition it is an unconditional feeling of love, appreciation and acceptance for yourself. What does unconditional mean? It means that no matter what you do, you always love yourself with the same strength. Now I know it might make sense when you read it, but you might be wondering – how do you get to that point? How can you get it? It all takes practice. It’s an everyday practice of positive self-reassurance. Having this practice in your arsenal will ultimately give you everything you need before having an added responsibility.
Self-awareness is a vital component to the personal growth of an individual. Knowing how you come across to the people in your life will only make you a better person. The energy that you give off is a clear indication of how people treat you. If you give people a bad vibe you can’t be surprised if you receive negative energy in return. It’s always important to recognize how you treat each person individually. Of course, everyone in your life doesn’t get the same version of you. So, knowing how you affect and effect the people in your circle is beneficial to your development.
Having solid goals outside of your relationship is pivotal. It gives you a clear sense of identity as an individual. Being able to detach yourself from coupledom is empowering and frankly, smart. You never want to be dependent on your partner for anything other than love and support. Even with love and support, you should be so filled with self-love and validation that if you aren’t receiving this from your partner you can make a clean break.
Personal successes and achievements are important to your self-esteem. Having something to be proud of, no matter how small, is a boost to your confidence. Knowing what you’re good at and being rewarded for it gives you a sense of unwavering pride.
Relationships are work without a doubt. Having your own work handled makes the process of falling in love that much easier.
Written By: Faith Stewart