If you know the funny Wayans family, you know that they love each other dearly. You know this because they show it every chance that they get! The showing of love and affection isn’t just between the immediate (famous) family members– it runs all the way to the cousins, nieces, nephews and beyond.
Marlon Wayans showed his love for his nephew recently on his Facebook page with a picture of him kissing his nephew, Damon Wayans Jr. on the back of the neck and congratulating him on his success. Instead of viewing this act of love by Marlon as an “aww” moment, majority of his fans viewed it as an “eww” moment.
There were comments made that Marlon’s act was “too gay” and some even denounced the entire Wayans family, claiming the African-American community dislikes them because they “kiss on each other too much.” Sadly, these are the views of many black families, and it’s also the cause of a massive lack of affection displayed within African-American households.
Ru, 26, from New York stated, “We don’t hug and kiss a lot in my family. We say ‘I love you’ a lot but the most we give each other is a handshake.”
This sentiment is so common in black families that most blacks feel awkward being affectionate with their family, and it also causes them to feel awkward seeing affection in other families. Instead of us seeing one of the most successful families in our community as “gay,” we should be taking notes.
From the Wayans family’s constant display of affection, we can learn the importance of affection in a family. Look how close they are to each other; sometimes showing your relatives a little love can end family feuds and disputes, hence the saying, “hug it out.” We can learn that a person’s ability to show affection starts at home; showing affection teaches your children to show affection in their relationships.
The Wayans’ ability to show affection teaches/taught their children to be affectionate, shaping them to form functional, loving relationships instead of dysfunctional. Not only does showing affection within the family set the tone for how we give affection, it also sets the tone for how we receive it. Each member of the Wayans family is just as comfortable receiving affection as they are giving it. You don’t want the day to come when your teenage daughter doesn’t know how to receive affection from a guy. Affection has to be taught at home.
The Wayans’ PDA teaches us how important it is to show that we love each other, not just say it. With an immense amount of hate within the black community, publicly showing black love is a step towards rebuilding our families and our community. It’s a step towards ending the terrifying amount of senseless violence within our community. Who knows…your child could be the reason why a school bully doesn’t kill another student one day, just because he gave the bully a hug. Showing affection within the family teaches self-esteem, self-love and trust. From the many Wayans that are in the limelight, there’s not one family member that demonstrates lack of self-esteem; nor have we seen any scandals or feuds within the Wayans family. This is because their ability to show love and affection keeps them a tightly-knit family. We need more families like the Wayans’ in the black community instead of the many broken homes that we have. Let’s learn all we can from the Wayans’ and follow in their footsteps. Go find your sister or brother and give them a huge hug and a kiss, just because!
Written By: Kahina Ray