We often discuss things that people should talk about, or questions one should ask before dating someone. I have time and time again mentioned that I find it crazy that there is an entire part of the dating stage that we call “talking,” yet people don’t like to ask deep or hard hitting questions during this stage when they are supposed to be getting to know each other and negiotiationg out what a relationship could potentially be.
There are countless questions we have been taught to ask before entering a relationship with someone, such as:
Do you want kids? Do you want to get married? Have you ever been married? What are your religious views? What are your political views? What are deal breakers for you? What type of debt do you have? Are you over your last relationship? What’s the hardest part about dating you?
Those are all excellent questions, but one question EVERY woman should start asking is,
“What are your intentions with me?”
It’s a strong powerful, straight-to-the-point question that instantly lets a man know you are not about the games or having your time wasted.
That question stands out because it’s the type of question a woman’s father, brother, friend, uncle, etc., would ask. It determines what kind of man he is and if he detects any BS in the air.
When his intentions are questioned, how he answers is critical. It’s a hard question to fake. It will stop him dead in his tracks and cause him to think before he answers. It’s the type of question that throws him off his game, (if he’s playing games).
A young lady asked me this question at a speed dating event, and it completely caught me off guard because it’s such an out-of-the-ordinary question. But it’s a question that has to be respected and must be answered. We can’t gloss over it or skip it. Once it’s asked, an answer is mandatory.
Nothing will tick you off more than wasting time dating or going on dates with someone only to find out they never wanted more than something casual.
For a man who has no intentions of being with you, no amount of time spent, moments or experiences with him will make him want a future with you.
So don’t be afraid to toss that question out and possibly break up a mood so you can get some clarity about how you’re investing your time.
Written By: Johnny Brownlee II
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