Do the ladies run this mutha? Without much research, if you were to pay attention to various statistics and studies you’d quickly come to an answer of a resounding hell yeah!
Sisters are doing their thing, making boss moves and living life on their terms. For better or worse, women are now breadwinners, heads of households, educated, running and starting their own companies. Ladies are leading movements, making a difference, and have an active voice in politics. In many areas of attaining higher education and business success, women are starting to outpace men. Sisters are thriving, proving daily that they don’t need and are not validated by men and they can do it on their own; some because of men and some in spite of men.
Yet with all the success, progress and girl power, many are having a problem finding a suitable companion. We’ve all heard strong modern women complain of not being able to find men who can handle them. In the age of the alpha woman, alpha men seem to be in short supply– borderline a dying breed. A more subdued and low-key man has taken the alpha male’s place. And much to the chagrin of women, the beta male is exactly what women wanted yet are no longer enthralled with.
What is a Beta Male? Beta males usually lack an alpha mentor like a father figure or a good role model. The masculine father figure was replaced by a women that raised her boy into a beta male. This caused boys growing into men to believe that a women’s definition of a man was right, and any other idea of a man was wrong.
Women seek old-fashioned men, but when women became more independent and self-sufficient, those types of men were considered too domineering. So women looked for strong, silent types who avoid conflict and are very patient, but those men were said to hold in things too long and then blow up in anger. And they were pushovers. A transition to softer men was requested– men who were not as aggressive, who didn’t need to be strong all the time, who were in touch with their feminine side and not afraid to express emotion. But those men are now considered not manly enough and emotional, which can be categorized as a beta male.
While beta men have been demonized as weak and submissive, they often aren’t appreciated for the things they’re good at, such as being supportive. They are supportive and secure enough in manhood that they don’t have to be domineering figures threatened by a woman in charge or in distinction. Be careful what you ask for, ladies, because men will give you exactly that. If you wish for us to return to alpha male status, the question is are you prepared for what may happen if the pendulum swings all the way back to the right? It seems as if women are seeking to own both sides of the argument; They wish to be traditional women but want to keep all the new school benefits. Often it takes a generation to get from one definition to another, meaning men evolve much slower than you change the requirements and how parents raise us to be.
Maybe instead of trying to change men you should accept them as they are– the same way you want to be accepted for you are. Allow and encourage him to be more dominant without penalty by lowering your defenses, relinquishing some of your power and freedom that comes with being the alpha. It’s a big step, but it’s a trust-building step that’s in your hands.
Written By: Johnny Brownlee II
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