There’s a running joke that the quarantine is either going to produce a lot of babies, breakups, and/or divorces. If you think that the quarantine has made it difficult to date as a single person, try being in a relationship. I’d recommend you check in on your coupled friends to make sure that they are alright and have not driven each other crazy yet.
The quarantine has tested and hit couples just as hard, if not harder than single people. It has interrupted our normal routines, eliminated separation, forced us to spend more time with each other than we ever anticipated, and also created a new monotony. There’s a saying amongst prisoners that you can do the time, but it’s the routine that’ll kill you.
Things that we took for granted in relationships like being apart from our partner to go to work, having our own hobbies, or having a date night, are all pretty much forbidden now.
Since date night is probably not an option, here are a few things you can do as a couple during the quarantine to make the most of the time.
Mix up your food routine – Since we’re not fully able to go out or travel, try being adventurous in your eating in the same way you would if you were on vacation. Usually when people travel is the time they are the most adventurous and willing to try new foods and meals. Apply this to your everyday life. While grocery shopping, try picking up a different cut of meat or a new type of fish. You can also make your sandwich with a different bread or cheese and maybe try a new wine/beer to complement it. Ask for suggestions from the meat/fish associates on how what your new selections taste like and the best way to cook it. Cook something new in a familiar way, or, something familiar in a new way. One substitution or deviation can make a world of difference.
Cook together – If you can’t go out to dinner, cook together. You and your boo in the kitchen together is a great way to not only cook a good meal, but it’s also great way to work on some important aspects of your relationship: following directions, clear communication, teamwork, and division of labor, just to name a few. One of you can be the chef while the other is the prep cook, or one cooks and the other washes dishes at the same time. It’s a good way to share recipes and cooking techniques. It’s quality time well spent.
Plan a trip together – Planning a trip can be as much fun as actually going on it, especially if you can find some good deals. Since no one knows when it will be safe to do so and you’ve probably already had to cancel some travel plans, plan a getaway for you and your significant other. Plan a trip for every month far ahead that you think/hope it will be safe to travel or maybe one for the end of the year.
The key to this is to schedule things that are refundable in the event that’s it’s not safe, you don’t have the money, places haven’t opened back up yet or you just don’t feel comfortable.
Think of different types of trips, such as in-state, out-of-state, and even look into some international trips. There are some countries that are just as affordable as a domestic trip. It’ll give you something to look forward to and if you’re able to pull it off for cheaper amount, it’ll be even better.
Home Projects – Are there any small do it yourself projects, fixes, or improvements around the house that need to get done? Well instead of procrastinating or just making a honey-do-list, do them together. Once again, it’s great communication, teamwork and it offers a sense of accomplishment and relief in the end.
Work out together – Plan for that beach/vacation body so that the two of you can be the sexiest couple out. This can be for couples or people dating. Just about every personal trainer you can think of is offering free workouts online or via an app. So set some fitness goals and crush them together. Get healthy and fit together. And while you’re at it, check out some of the intimate, sexy couple workouts so that you can work up a sweat in more ways than one and strengthen your relationship in other ways, if you know what I mean… *wink wink*
Watch a series together – Since sports are off, and a lot of filming is on hold, a lot of our normal tv watching routines are all thrown off. Watch, discover, and get addicted to something new with your partner. Get some popcorn and wine. Cuddle up and find a new series to watch. Or you can make a list of movies or shows that you haven’t seen and watch those. This is the perfect time for binge-watching.
Be socially/politically engaged – Even during the quarantine we’ve had social injustices happen. If you and your partner are the types to get involved in socio-political movements, a good cause to get out of the house for is to go to a rally or protest that is fighting for change. Just be safe and peaceful, and protect and look out for each other. But do realize that are other ways to be socially engaged, without going out amongst a crowd. You and your partner can fill out or create a petition, participate in a call to action, call or email your political officials, make sure you fill out the census together, make sure you’re registered to vote, and/or sign up for mail-in ballots. Doing it together, encouraging each other, and discussing it is the thing that counts.
There are very few limits to the things you can do virtually. You can do a virtual museum tour, a virtual escape room, read and discuss a book, or watch a documentary.
Whether you’re quarantining together or apart, you’ve probably interacted with each other more than you usually do and more than you’ve planned. You’ve probably gotten on each other’s nerves a few times and have probably learned more about each other than you’ve bargained for. We’ve seen how our mates interact and deal with the people they work with, their work habits, what they do when they’re bored, angry, hungry– you name it. Hopefully, it’s all for the better, and hopefully you still like/love each other. Be understanding, give each other space, and continue to find ways to make each other feel special and appreciated.
Let’s make the best of this bad situation and do the best we can for each other.
Written By: Johnny Brownlee II
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