As if dating wasn’t hard enough, the year of our Lord 2020 has brought us a global pandemic that has forced us to social distance, quarantine, and has essentially closed down and canceled all social and group settings. Work, church, shopping, clubbing, you name it, has all been moved online. If you have ever been even remotely interested in online dating, this is your moment. The Coronavirus outbreak has presented the world with a set of challenges none of us were prepared for or expecting. If you’re single and ready to mingle, in the talking, or dating stages of a relationship, this pandemic has made it just about impossible to go out and meet new people or go on a simple date comfortably or safely. So, here are few ideas you can try out if you’re single or dating.
Slide in DMs – Sliding in the DM and asking to have a private conversation has never been more acceptable than this moment right here. Sliding in the DMs doesn’t have to start with trying to date, but it has a stigma attached to it because people have nefariously used it for that purpose almost exclusively. You can slide in the DMs to ask someone for clarification on something they may have commented on or posted. You can slide into the DMs to avoid having to deal with updates every time someone else posts to a thread. You can do it just to introduce yourself. On some platforms, if you react to their story it automatically goes to the DM, so use that as an easy in and just keep the conversation going.
Join groups and meet new people online – Quarantine is the perfect time to network or explore some online dating. *starts playing “Computer Love” in the background* If you don’t want to dive directly into dating, explore the groups on social media and see if you meet someone with similar interests. Join a group or two; it’s great for networking, information sharing, or just conversation, but you never know who you might meet. This quarantine is a great time to take it slow and have deep conversations and truly get to know people without the pressure of them wanting to meet up anytime soon. Just enjoy the “talking” phase.
Send small gifts – If you’re dating, talking, or interested in someone and you can’t be together due to social distancing and quarantine, send each other small gifts. Surfing websites is the new window shopping, so try not to do too much impulse shopping by purchasing things you don’t need. A small trinket or two to let someone know you’re thinking about them, and to surprise them, is a cool idea.
Send food (or money for the ingredients) – Take-out and food delivery services are at an all-time high and necessity. Since we all have to eat (and we’re probably doing a lot more of it than usual) send your special someone a meal. Since grocery stores are also delivering, you could also send them the ingredients to make a meal, throw in a bottle of wine or whatever else they like. If you don’t wish to send food, send them money for food, and buy their meal.
Based on what we’re seeing nationwide, it’s going to be a while before things are back to normal. So we have make the best of it. Social distancing and quarantining do not have to equal complete isolation and confinement. Use the technology to your advantage to communicate, stay informed, reach out, show you care, and potentially meet a new friend.
Written By: Johnny Brownlee II
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