Gone are the days when brainless eye candy was all the rage. Instead, men are now seeking the alpha women who make good money, hold positions of power, and know their worth. And while it is socially acceptable to post pictures of your lady parts all over social media these days, women who steer clear of the aforementioned and take a more conservative approach are highly sought-after because they play up their best attributes and leave quite a bit to the social imagination. While many women wish to be swept off their feet and have a man put on a ring on it, you have to ask yourself: Am I presenting myself in a way that is deserving of such?
We’ve all be single at some point, but that does not give you a pass to act out in desperation. Some might wonder what’s so desperate about posting sexy pictures, but trust us, if all you put on display are your feminine wows, then that’s all men will want; period. Typically, women who visually give up the goods are called “thirsty.” And while most of them like to accuse men of being the same, you have to be honest about the real reason you post revealing pictures of yourself on Instagram. Such actions are often allied with low self-esteem and insecurity issues. Being thirsty has many forms in the dating world, but it’s only good for thing: keeping you on the market.
The woman that wants to be “wifed” (i.e. in a monogamous and meaningful relationship) is not trying to impress or trap a man. She is a self-proclaimed trophy; someone who any man would be proud to call his own. Take Amal Clooney, for example. She is equal to her man in earning power and career position. Even though her husband is an Oscar-winning actor known world-wide, she can still stand on her own two feet as a lawyer, author and successful business woman.
In summation, recognition is nothing without respect. Men’s attraction to someone’s outer glow is one piece of a much larger story. Unfortunately, in today’s society the women who don’t seek validation are like an oasis in the desert. So, if you are experiencing problems in the relationship department, ask yourself: Am I a trophy or am I too thirsty?
By: Joseph Cheatham