Morris Chestnut and Pam Byse have been married for almost 20 years and have somehow managed to have a seemingly scandal-free relationship. Having a husband who is that fine and always in the spotlight probably isn’t easy for Pam. So how do you make love last when your man is always on the scene and you’re his background queen? Here are a few tips:
1. Decipher. Everyone has insecurities; however, the key to dealing with these feelings is being able to decipher the difference between a moment of self-doubt and actual problems. Moments of self-doubt (keyword: self) are fleeting, easy to overcome and have nothing to do with your partner. However, actual problems are recurring and usually cause significant discord within the relationship.
2. Separate. It can be extremely hard to separate reality from celebrity. Do not be deterred by the personas, the glitz or the glamour. Instead, focus on the things you know to be true, like your partner’s character, morals and values.
3. Communicate. As with all relationships, communication is key. In some relationships, an insecurity can be triggered by your partner’s actions. In these situations, it is best to share how you are feeling with them because there may be something he can do to combat that insecurity.
4. Be Confident. There will be times when the saboteurs of your life, such as groupies, social media trolls, inappropriate fans and media lies, enter into your home. Always have confidence in who you are and what you have to offer and do not allow the looks, lies or lives of others to make you feel inept. Byse can be seen next to Chestnut at movie premieres exuding confidence while the rest of us are drooling over her man.
5. Trust. Treat trust as something freely given instead of something earned. Trust your partner to honor you and be loyal to you in all circumstances instead of expecting the opposite.
6. Stay Positive. Whether it be a fleeting moment or a recurring incident, combat all insecurities with positive thoughts. Do not seek or prepare for pain. Instead, relish in happiness.
All relationships bring about insecurities; however, when you’re dating someone well-known, those feelings are often intensified. There will be a lot of outside noise and many moments of self-doubt. Be secure in who you are and what you and you partner have, and don’t allow anything to cloud your judgment.
Written By: Jessica Gantt