Social media has the ability to make everything look enticing– especially relationships. But the truth is, every relationship is not perfect. Hell, no relationship is. Relationships are displayed on social media all day every day, sometimes making those who are single yearn for what they SEE, rather than what they KNOW. But do we actually understand love, or do we have falsified images of what love is supposed to look like?
There’s nothing like scrolling through your social media platforms and noticing how happy a couple looks. We come across public proclamations of men and women professing their love for one another. “Bae sent flowers to the office today.” We see how blessed and “happy” these people are, right? But the fact of the matter is, social media is just what it is: social media. Long captions, photoshopping, the whole nine. It has the overall tendency to make us as society yearn for the perfect relationship as we constantly compare our love lives to those we see on social media. We see celebrity couples such Bey & J, Cardi & Offset, and so on. The negative effects tend to always get overlooked, and yes, believe it or not. Social media can be presented in a way where folks aren’t aware of those negative effects. You know what they say: “Everything that glitters ain’t gold.” It’s a matter of expectations versus reality.
Social media repeatedly demands entirely too much from people– especially those in relationships– and we are then driven to try to meet those standards. But for what? We should not allow social media to define love for us. Instead, we should try to define it ourselves. We all deserve respect, compassion, and so on, but because of social media, we are all setting up unpredictable standards for relationships. For instance, “If your boyfriend doesn’t post you on his social media, then he doesn’t love you or he’s cheating.” When scrolling through our Twitter accounts, Facebook, and Instagram, we see celebrity couples posting their significant other, and society, as a whole, assumes that it means they’re ‘happy.’ Negative. You never know what couples are going through or dealing with.
We all see the posts of couples traveling the world with matching cars and shoes, and the words #RelationshipGoals plastered across them. Everyone’s relationship is different. But why allow social media to define what your life should look like, who you should be with or how you should act? Do you really think it’s going to ultimately make you happy or get rid of your insecurities and loneliness?
Social media can serve as a useful tool or a toxic one. The more technology advances, the more it demands new terms and conditions for relationships and dating. People tend to seek validation and recognition for being in what appears to be in a happy relationship. Social media is now facilitating the do’s and don’ts of our relationships. It is impacting our standards and expectations for our significant others. There’s nothing wrong with finding love, but don’t let social media create YOUR reality.
Written By: Daion Stanford