“Men will be men” is a commonly used phrase. If you ask a man about his ability to be faithful, he probably would say, “It depends on the woman.” But in all actuality, it doesn’t depend on solely the woman. It is all about choices said man and woman make. However, there are some people that believe that it takes a ‘certain kind of woman’ to make a man commit. The question is, is a virgin woman that kind of woman?
Melissa 28, from Harlem, believes that the love a husband has for his wife, if she is a virgin, is a bit more special, but doesn’t guarantee his faithfulness. “I wouldn’t say that being a virgin will guarantee faithfulness when you get married, but the value and the appreciation that he has for you is that much more. Some men like the thought of a woman being wholesome and untouched. But if they’re going to cheat, they’re going to do it regardless because it’s all based on choices.”
Dominique 24, from Mount Vernon, thinks that a virgin should be ‘it’ for a husband, among other things to complete the package of a wife. “I believe it should. I feel because you’re a fresh pair of sneakers, your husband would be even more committed to you and eager to teach you new things.”
Tyler 20, from Harlem, doesn’t think your sexual experience is the sole influence on the strength or depletion of a marriage. “There are several components that make a marriage thrive. Some people step out on their marriage because their spouse makes them feel not wanted or needed. The lack of communication or the sexual chemistry has faded. There are several scenarios that can play out, but I don’t think being a virgin will guarantee a faithful union. All those other things matter as well.”
Raven, 21, from the Bronx, thinks virginity can be an asset, but it doesn’t solidify a husband’s faithfulness. “I think being a virgin will help a marriage because men like to know that you weren’t out being loose, but instead being patient and waiting on them. It’s kind of selfish, but they like to know that not many men have had you.”
Ultimately, the only thing that guarantees a faithful marriage is the work that you put into it. Consistency, dedication and communication are all key components of a faithful marriage. No matter how intelligent, sexy, loving, or confident a woman is, if a man decides to cheat, it by no means is a reflection of the sexual experience alone.
Written By: Faith Stewart