Besties aren’t necessarily the best roomies, and most people have to learn that the hard way. Roommate conflict has the potential to ruin even the strongest friendships. There’s the messy-neat roommate conflict, the who-pays-what roommate conflict, the clingy roommate conflict, the late-rent roommate conflict, I-don’t-like-your-boyfriend roommate conflict, and the list goes on. Our advice? Save your friendship (and the drama) by following these three tips:
Timing is everything. Don’t wait too long to address something that’s really bothering you. Bottling up emotions leads to passive-aggressive behavior and often ends up creating even more problems. Give yourself some time to cool down, and let the issue simmer briefly. Once you’ve done that, go straight to your roommate and be open and honest with your grievances.
Talk it out…literally. Notes and texts leave too much room for misinterpretation. Addressing conflicts via text will often make your roommate defensive before ever truly hearing you out. Avoid any misunderstanding by communicating your problems face-to-face, which shouldn’t be an issue since the two of you live together. Remember that communication is a two-way street; listening to your roommates feelings is just as important as voicing yours.
Compromise. Find alternative solutions when problems arise between you and your roommate. If his or her music is too loud, try putting your headphones in sometimes. Create solutions instead of problems. If you’re responsible and considerate of your roomie, he or she will likely be the same.
When all is said and done, there is a thin line between the joy of living with your best friend, and the devastation of a destroyed friendship. If you care about your best friend/roomie, make use of the suggestions above and remember what’s most important: your friendship.
By: Lauren McRae