Were you one of those children that wouldn’t go anywhere without your favorite cousin(s) or sibling(s)? Maybe you were always just extremely close to your family. Regardless of how tight knit you were with your family, you’re still an individual and will embark on your own path. We all know that the journey to success requires a lot of sacrifice and can be lonely. It can seem especially lonely when your family doesn’t accept the life that you chose. How do you deal with this issue?
First, you have to understand why your family isn’t accepting of your success. There can be multiple reasons but the top 3 are that they don’t have the same definition of success as you, they feel neglected or not included in your life, and the number one reason is that they feel like, you’ve changed. As aggravating as it is, remember that these are their personal opinions and opinions can’t be changed by force, it’ll have to be done of their own will. Still, there’s a few things that you can do to get them on board with accepting your successful lifestyle.
- Invite them to all of your events – They want to feel included and not as if you’re ashamed of your family. Sure your friends or colleagues may be bougie, but that shouldn’t stop you from bringing your family around, even if they are not as successful.
- Take them to a place where you all went as children – Go bowling or to an amusement park, or whatever it is that you used to do with your cousins and/or siblings, etc. to show that you haven’t changed. You’re still the same person and you still like the simple things; you’re not always fancy and you don’t think that you’re better than anyone.
- Explain to them that it’s not about money, you just enjoy what you do. – Some people think that sucesssful people are money hungry a$$holes, but that’s not always true. Maybe you can convince them to find something that they love so that they can see why you put so much of your time and energy into your job.
Again, it is totally up to your family members to decide to accept you on their own, but if you take these steps at least you will sleep better at night knowing that you’ve done your part. It’s not you that has to change, so just stay true to yourself, be yourself, and hopefully your family will have a change of heart.
Written By: Kahina Ray