Making that big move to another state to accomplish your goals can be hard to do when your family doesn’t really have your back. Even though you’re an adult, it can still be hard to just leave your family when you know that they don’t really want you to go. What do you do when you need to make a decision between your loved ones and your love for fulfilling your dreams? Keep reading below to discover a few steps you can take to get the courage to move away from your family.
- Get a relative on your side. Even if it’s not an immediate family member, if you have the support of at least one person in your family the chances of winning over those that are most important to you are higher. Get a distant cousin, aunt, uncle, etc. to vouch for you, and watch your immediate family members become more understanding of your decision.
- Get a plan and present it to your family. At the end of the day, your family just wants to make sure you’re going to be safe. Let them know your game plan and that you have a purpose that you’re committed to; this will help them to ease up and become more lenient towards your decision.
- Remind yourself that your dreams are bigger than you. This will help to remove that feeling of selfishness that creeps up when you think about moving away despite your family’s disapproval. Remembering the big picture about why you’re moving will give you the strength you need to follow through with your decision.
- Visit the area you wish to move to, frequently. Maybe you can even take a couple of family members with you, so they can see why your chosen city is perfect for you and your career goals. You’ll begin to feel more and more comfortable living there, and you’ll start to build the courage you need to make your move. You’ll also get your family to become comfortable with the area, and they just might start to support your decision.
Whenever you feel in your heart that it’s time to make a move, nine times out of 10 the idea was placed in your heart for a reason. Make the move and live your life! The last thing you want to live with, is regret. Don’t miss out on your opportunities because of fear or family. Family will always be there, but your dreams won’t!
Written By: Kahina Ray