The kids are alright…I think.
With situationships, dating apps, hookups and sexual liberalism replacing the traditional values of dating that were held by Generation Y (millennials), what does the upcoming generation (Generation Z) really think about relationships?
There are a few different ideas of what years incorporate each generation, but approximately those born between the years of 1981-1996 are considered Generation Y (millennials), and those born between the years of 1997-2013 are considered Generation Z. So we decided to speak with some of those from Gen-Z to see exactly where the state of love and relationships is heading.
Dara, 19, shared her views about Gen-Z’s views love and relationships. She believes her generation focuses more on their personal success, and that a relationship really isn’t a big deal. She stated, “[Millennials] look forward to being married, and put up with more from guys like cheating, etc., We don’t. We look forward to having our own, and a relationship or marriage is just something to add. We would be okay if we never got married. We also value the quality of relationships over the quantity; we don’t care to have a lot of friends or associates or anything like that.”
When asked about sexuality, and polyamorous relationships, she said it’s not a big deal. She identifies as queer, and some of her relationships that were very open and polyamorous. It seems her generation doesn’t hold the sort of judgmental mentality that millennials have. Guys are not as quick to label a girl a whore or slut as in Gen-Y. They’re more accepting that females are sexually liberated.
We also spoke with a group of 14-17 year olds whose names we won’t reveal, and their opinions were much like Dara’s. One 16-year-old girl stated, “I don’t care about having a boyfriend. I don’t have time for one. What do I need one for? He can come over to my house to “Netflix and chill” whenever I want him to but other than that, I don’t know why I would need a boyfriend.”
When asked about dating apps such as Tinder and Plenty of Fish, the majority of them think they’re really just for attention and they never plan to really meet anyone from the app; it’s basically just a source for constant communication. The younger generation is not looking to date. Hell, they’re not even looking for love.
As a society, we become slightly more “free” as each generation goes by. From the Baby Boomers, to Gen-X, to Millennials, now to Gen-Z, we have become more liberated in regard to our views on love and relationships. The kids’ views aren’t wrong; they’re just an enhancement of the previous generation’s views. But if this is true, where does this lead society for the generation after Gen-Z? Will the future just become one big orgy with no morals, standards, traditions, or values when it comes to relationships? Will this even be a topic worth discussing in 2032? I can’t answer those questions, but I can say that I am excited to see if the kids will keep this same energy towards love and relationships when they’re 35 and older, and I am anxious to see what the dating scene (if there is one) will look like 10 years from now.
Written By: Kahina Ray
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