So, you had a disagreement with a loved one and now you’re feeling awful. In your heart you know you were right but the reality of you two being angry with one another is haunting you and it’s beginning to interfere with your everyday life. What do you do? Do you take the high road and apologize or do you wait for them to make amends?
Okay, so you had an fallout with someone you love. At the time of the argument everything you said seemed quite valid…up until now and after hours and days of pondering on what seemed to be legitimate reasons to go off on your loved one. Regretfully, you’re coming to the realization that maybe you could have gone about the ordeal differently.
Sleepless Nights and Endless Days
So you’ve heard of cold sweats in the middle of the night but what about never falling asleep and remaining awake for 24 hours straight? No sleep just thoughts of how and why the disagreement occurred in the first place. Concentrating on work isn’t an option because your mind is unable to be productive!
Stepping Up- A Set Up for a Let Down?
You took the plunge and apologized. Now what? Well there’s nothing much you can do at this point. Allow for things to unfold the way God (Yes, God) has intended for it to play out. The positive that can occur is discussing, reconciling and moving past things. The bad? A bigger argument. Which can only happen if you allow it to happen meaning if you feed into any negativity they throw your way when and if they decide to return your call, text or discuss the issue face to face. Either way taking the high road will only be beneficial to you…because you will have your piece of mind. The only downside of being the bigger person in this situation is the possibility of looking weak (to that person) or they may feel as if they won the battle because you called first but what’s more important? You losing sleep and being unfocused at work or them thinking they were right?
Apologizing first is only as bad as you allow for yourself to think it is. Remember, life is short and just as tomorrow isn’t promised neither is the opportunity to say sorry!
Written By: Tahanee Roberts
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