The ‘Year of the Side Chick’ is among us, ladies. We can’t get caught out here being number two. It takes a certain kind of woman to be a side chick. It goes back to the confidence issue, but that’s a conversation for Iyanla. The role that social media has played in the rise of side chicks is astounding. The notion of ‘putting people on blast’ is way too common. Private conversations no longer exist. Once someone gets angry, there is no telling what they will expose.
Again, it takes a certain kind of woman to announce to the world that she is the side chick. Maybe it’s for attention? Maybe to get a quick spot on a reality show? We’ll never know.
The reality is, we have to protect our relationships and make these people put some respek on it.
With all of that said, you’re probably wondering how in the world is that possible when everywhere you click, there are thirst traps planted and waiting to be detonated. Don’t worry! This list will teach you how to move in a room full of vultures.
- Keep the details of your relationship private. Everything doesn’t need a post or even a tag.
If you are compelled to share your happiness, leave something to the imagination. Once you let people inside your relationship, it gives them the notion to give unsolicited advice and opinions, which leads to unwanted headaches. Keep the details of your relationship private. Do you see the importance of that, yet? It was mentioned twice…
Know the difference between the truth and a lie. Isn’t that obvious? Don’t let obvious red flags wave in your face more than one time without addressing it. For example, if something doesn’t add up and the reasoning behind it also doesn’t add up, address it immediately. Ask the proper questions. Don’t ignore that gut feeling.
- Define what you need. Make sure your partner has a clear understanding of your needs and you of theirs. When your needs are not being met to your standard talk about it. Figure out a way to meet each others needs properly.
- Know when your time together is up. Don’t stay in a relationship just to say that you’re in one. If you’re not being respected, loved or cared for in the most uplifting way, its in your best interest to move on. Don’t settle for less.
Side chicks have a role to play, and they play it well. Women who want to be in serious long lasting relationships also have a role to play. Following these tips will keep them on the right track.
Written By: Faith Stewart