Some believe in giving second chances, but you believe in giving three, four and five chances! Never mind the fact people view you as a fool whose glutton for pain. At the end of the day it’s your life, your man and you can do as you please! Should you take a step back and look at your relationship or keep moving forward pushing the haters to the side? Here are some things to consider.
Is It a Crime?
Technically there is nothing wrong with having compassion and a forgiving heart. Your relationship isn’t perfect and your man has flaws, but is that a crime or apart of life? Are you a criminal for loving him, or a woman who believes in giving chances and that people can change? Either way you know what motivates you to stay involved and what influences you to share the bad that goes on in your relationship. If both were crimes, you’d have to decide which one holds the harshest punishment.
Is He Taking Advantage?
Do they have a point? Is your man pulling on your harp string of love? Do you need to let him go? These are questions that you can consider before making your next move. But do not give others the power to make life changing decisions for you. Besides, women have this great gift called intuition; don’t be afraid to tap into it.
It’s Your Relationship, Not Theirs
If you don’t want others judging your relationship, keep it yourself. If you want to talk, talk to the higher power (God), spiritual advisor or to a professional counselor. Mama may know best, but don’t expect for her to understand or see any good in a man who has broken her baby girl’s heart. Love is blind and sometimes it’s hard to see what others can view from a mile away. Do not expect for outsiders to feel the same love and compassion you have for your man; because they aren’t. You two share an intimacy and bond that no one else will be able to understand; accept that. If you need to express yourself, tell it someone who can’t take sides or be judgmental.
It’s your life, your relationship and your decision. When all is said and done, the decision to stay in this relationship is solely yours to make.
Written By: Tahanee Roberts