Multiple failed relationships are one thing and can be viewed as a negative experience, but what if a child was conceived in every one of those relationships? Does birthing multiple babies by several different men determine a woman’s worth? The short answer is no, and understanding a woman’s emotional standpoint might be the easiest way to break this down.
She’s a hopeless romantic.
So her dream guy turned out to be more of a nightmare, but a beautiful child came out of the relationship. And though her heart was broken, she picked up the pieces and moved on with her life, while holding on to her mother’s words of encouragement, “God has someone better.” Eventually she meets who she presumes to be Mr. Right, but after a year of no commitment, a bunch of games, and another child, she realizes that he’s every bit of Mr. Wrong! Yet and still, mama pushes along, repeating the same pattern, believing in her heart that she’ll find her true love one day.
Despite the circumstance, she sees her blessing.
Even with several failed relationships, this mother literally sees the bright side of things when she looks into the big button eyes of her children. Her mother’s words, “Those children are God’s blessing,” resonate with her every day. And though she’s experienced enough heartache for a life time, she recognizes that God doesn’t make mistakes; He made her a mother of several kids for a reason, and she’s more than capable of being the best mother she can be.
She’s focused on the kids.
This mama absolutely adores her children. She strives to meet their every want and need, not allowing her personal failures to affect her children’s quality of life. And while most look at her side ways when they hear how many kids and baby daddies she has, she prides herself on knowing that her kids are loved and well-taken care of.
So what is she worth?
Everything. Instead of turning our noses up at women with multiple children and babies’ fathers, we should be applauding them for pushing on despite what they’ve been through. Be it purposeful procreation, or simply a series of bad relationships, a woman who is taking care of business and providing for her family deserves our respect any day; no matter what we think of her personally.
Here at EGL, we are a community of various types of women. Where we find common ground is that we are about our business, whatever that business might be. That being said, we take pride in supporting our fellow EGL sisters, knowing that they will always be better than their circumstances.
To the women who can personally relate to the mother that we’ve described here, know that you are worth it. Breakups happen every day, but being blessed with a child from any relationship is only a reminder that love conquers all!
Written By: Tahanee Roberts