Many people think they’re ready for love but due to past situations, they may not necessarily be ready for a relationship. Dealing with a lover who has been hurt in a previous relationship could mean a bit of work for you, but this is not at all to say it can’t work.
Entering into a relationship with someone who took a shot to the heart in a previous relationship is hard work if they haven’t yet healed. The other person is likely to struggle with the concept of trust and expecting them to be open with you from the beginning is probably a lot to ask of them. Much patience is required in this situation because now you are up against several reasons why all women or men are, in their mind, just bad. The idea of constantly having to prove otherwise is probably overwhelming and maybe it’s because you know deep down inside, love isn’t supposed to play out this way.
There are basically two options to choose from. You can either assist in their rebuilding as far as the trust and security is concerned, or you can give them their time to heal, no matter how long it may take. Everyone overcomes hurt differently and the load is just not yours to take on. There is no in-the-middle option, but if you truly want this person to be in your life, you must decide what works best for the two of you, individually and together.
Being in a good space with your partner from the start is important. There may have been situations in the past that occurred, which will make the path a little rougher than you might’ve expected, but those aren’t signs to an end. If both of you are willing to put in the time and effort, and make choices that will play out well for the betterment of your own selves and a joint relationship, it can absolutely work.
Written By: Essence Mason