What happens when he’s your Romeo but you’re not his Juliet? Some women will bow out gracefully and fall into the friend zone, never giving those romantic notions second thought. But is that fair? Although many friendships are platonic, sexual chemistry and desires still exist within them, and the difference between sexual desires and self-control is the will to act upon instinct.
Often friends find themselves in an awkward place in their friendships because of the emotional bond, leisure time spent together and the freedom to be themselves. Of course, those are qualities usually shared with your partner, but most friendships are usually borderline weird but understandable. Some things just happen and everyone learns to cope for the sake of the friendship except for the person that has made more sacrifices.
For the reason alone, it’s important to let your partner hold the key to your heart. It’s okay to confide in your friend and even spend time together but remembering your partner’s place is the glue to keeping everyone sane and happy. Sharing too much or spending too much time together even in a platonic friendship can rub some people the wrong way and things can get messy fast.
Taking things to the next level can leave everyone confused not knowing which way to turn so friends with benefits should never be an option. It opens up the floodgates of emotions and can cause more harm than anyone bargained for.
Friendships should remain platonic until the correct approach is taken. If you find yourself in a situation where you’re unhappy, and you want to make things official with a friend, do things the right way. Make your friendships a priority by cutting ties with any other situation you are invested in. Walking into a new relationship happy, healthy and free leaves enough room for everyone to move on and grow.
Written By: Tamara U. Butler