It’s not easy being in a relationship with a man who has a child with another woman. You understand that for the sake of the child, they need to co-parent, but sometimes those lines seem to get a little blurred. Here are four red flags that he’s still messing around with his baby mama
1. He has a problem with the two of you meeting.
He goes alone to pick up or drop off the kids, you can’t go to any sporting events or birthday parties, and he claims that his baby mama doesn’t want to meet you. Normally, a mother would want to be introduced to the woman that her child is around, so if he’s trying to feed you that BS, don’t buy it. The only reason he would have an issue with the two of you being in the same room together is if he still has something going on with her.
2. Whenever she calls, he lets it go to voicemail.
The only thing that him and his baby mama should be discussing are the kid(s), so, if she calls and he lets it go to voicemail; STOP, do not pass GO, do not collect $200. For one, it could be an emergency with the child, and two, what is it that he can’t discuss around you? Buying diapers or what time the parent-teacher conference is the next day, are not top secret conversations that can’t be had in front of you. You need to address it.
3. She has the say-so.
If his baby mama calls all of the shots, then there’s a reason why. She dictates if and when he gets to see his kid(s) and pops up with the child whenever she sees fit, and your man doesn’t see any issue with this. If he’s allowing his baby mama to have all of the say so, it’s because she knows she can. She still has him right where she wants him.
4. She relies on him for everything.
When her tank is on E, she calls him. When she doesn’t have enough money for the light bill, she calls him. When the light bulb in her closet goes out, she calls him. If every single time she’s in distress, he puts on a cape and runs to her rescue; Houston, we have a problem! Your man is playing Captain Save ’em, going above and beyond his duties as a father and you definitely need to be worried.
Written By: Briana Monique