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Once the relationship is past the honeymoon stage and the overwhelming thoughts of infatuation have somewhat faded, the reality of being married sets in. If happily ever after is what you seek, it is crucial to have a strong foundation; without it, your relationship can’t stand the test of time. In marriage, there will undoubtedly be challenges and pressure; some that you’re prepared for, and some that blindsides you. Forming a tight bond early on with your partner is key. Here are ways to build a strong foundation that will lead to a lasting relationship.

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Nurture fondness and admiration.

When you are appreciative of your partner, it should show. They should know how you truly feel about them. Be genuine when asking how their day was or if they need help with certain tasks. Lighten their load by sending sweet text messages during the day or giving small surprises that encourage them to reciprocate those actions to you.

Get out of your feelings.

If your partner has beef with you, and it is a solid beef, hear them out. As you go through different phases in life, you want different things. They should feel safe enough to voice their concerns to you with confidence that you will listen and hopefully make adjustments to ease their concerns. To the contrary, listening only with the intent of defending yourself is…wack.

When stressed, turn to your partner.

Life easily falls out of whack. During times of frustration, turn to your spouse. Let them help you look at things from a different perspective to help ease your mind. Additionally, you will feel much more secure knowing that someone solid has your back.

Develop a few rituals.

You and your partner should have routine things that you do together. Planning for something constant also helps you feel secure in your marriage. Can you have lunch together once a month? How about Friday night movies every third Friday of the month? Host an annual summer party? Find something fun that you can do routinely together.

Believe in a higher power.

Looking toward a higher power gives you something to have faith in together. Praying and worshipping as one will help you grow individually, as well as a unit.

This short list certainly does not cover all of the basics to developing a strong marriage foundation, however, it is a good starting place.

Comment to let us know how you’ve developed and continue to maintain a strong foundation for your marriage.

Written By: Carla DuPont Huger



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