Being open and honest about what you want in the bedroom can be frightening, but if done the right way, you both can still go to sleep with smiles on your faces. Couples should be able to talk to each other to get more pleasure out of their sex life. Sex is a significant part of a marriage; it can bring you closer together or carry a heavy strain that can tear you apart. EGL is here to help, so here are a few tips to get your romance talks started in the right direction.
- Perfect Timing
There is no perfect time to talk about ways to improve the number of orgasms you have, but you should have the conversation when you both are in a relaxed state of mind; not when he’s frustrated from work or when you are struggling with the kids. You both need to be able to relay how you feel about the topic in a cool, calm atmosphere.
- Know What You Want
You have to be honest with yourself before you broach the topic. If you want him to give you more oral, say just that. Know your expectations and feel comfortable to express dissatisfactions without placing blame or making him feel guilty.
- Be a Good Listener
Just as you want your hubs to be open to your suggestions, you have to be open to his. There are things he wants to try that he hasn’t told you about or you’ve just been squeamish about. Dig a little deeper and don’t be afraid to ask what he wants.
- The Power of Physical Touch
You would be surprised how far holding hands or touching his arm can go when having a difficult conversation. That small connection will help you both feel, well, more connected.
- Remain Focused
Sitting down to have a talk about your sex life is not the time to dive into problems with your finances or him hanging out too many times a week. Do not air out other grievances; keep your mind – and the conversation – on the task at hand.
So, how do you handle difficult conversations in your marriage? Share your tips and be sure to post this on your Facebook and Twitter feeds to help your friends improve their sex lives. They will thank you for it!
Written By: Carla DuPont Huger