While some may have to work hard for their relationships to prosper, others are fortunate enough to get the milk without buying the cow. When it’s time to set realistic limitations by saying no, one may be seen as being difficult. Restrictions should be set when a couple is not on the same page or are still learning one another’s preferences. Here are five reasons why saying ‘no’ isn’t such a bad thing:
You Gain a Mutual Understanding. Saying no can cause disagreements, but it can also leave you with a better understanding of how your partner thinks. Although conflicts lead you to an uncomfortable place, the reward understands one another clearly.
It Helps You See the Bigger Picture. There’s a reason for everything. Always try to use logic and understand why a person feels the way they do. Each of us has a perception of what love looks like, how we expect to be treated and what we each of us deserve, so be open to change.
It Forces You to Accept Your Partner as an Individual. Be open to progressive change in your relationship because you won’t be able to see eye to eye all the time or agree on everything. We all have individual preferences and ways of doing things, but understanding the method to their madness can help you.
It Gives Alternatives That Work for the Both of You. Suggest alternatives to your partner that you work for the both of you. There may be different approach to figuring things out if you put your heads together since two are always better than one. Things may not always go as planned but if you work together, the relationship can work.
You Address Issues That May Be Problematic Down the Line. There’s nothing worse than letting something slide because you’re uncomfortable, or the problem may seem unapproachable. Be honest with your partner in the beginning so that you won’t lead them to believe that you’re okay with everything.
By: Tamara U. Butler