When children are born, families are so excited. Couples can’t wait to explore the parenthood they have waited their whole lives for. Then it happens. You realize just how much having a little one affects your lives overall; especially in the bedroom. It’s amazing how rapidly quickies turn into power naps and night-long love sessions turn into marathon feeding and burping sessions.
New parents, this is not to scare you, but help you understand that you are not alone. Sex will be the last thing on your mind and that is ok. You will get back to knockin’ the boots soon enough, but in the meantime, here are some reasons why your mind is on everything but pleasing your man.
Newborns eat, on average, every 2 to 4 hours. That means you or your partner will have to be standing at attention with a breast or warm bottle. Additionally, it takes several months before your baby will sleep through the night. Learning your new baby’s routine is taxing physically and emotionally, because as soon as you get it down, it changes. That said, you can barely find the time to brush your teeth, not to mention make love.
Whose eyes does she have? Whose ears are those? You and your partner become so enamored with the little one that your attention shifts. Before you could put each other first, however, now the baby’s needs are the new priority.
Not in the Mood
It’s kind of hard to feel sexy in pajamas with spit up on them. If one parent is working, they get to come home to the newness of having the addition to the family. The parent who spends the lion’s share of time with the baby is in a constant rotation of feedings and poo diapers. If both parents work, taking care of the baby is a juggling act. With this being your constant state, taking a roll in the hay is nowhere on the list of things to do.
You are both clean, somewhat rested and finally backed up enough to give the bed a spin. Kissing does wonders to get the clothes off quickly. Then the baby cries. Exasperated, one of you calms the baby down and anxiously returns to the room only to find your partner has fallen asleep.
We know. We haven’t painted the most exciting picture of motherhood, but we promise that it is all worth it in the end. For now, just focus on your bundle of joy and remember there is sex on the other side!
By: Carla DuPont Huger