Staying in the loop no longer requires a weekly phone call from a close friend or a glance at a newspaper. Now, all we need to do is set alerts on our phones that tell us who said what, where it was said, and what they were wearing when they said it. Nowadays, if you’re not a part of a social media network you’re considered “out of touch,” but being too in the know can come with a downside.
When you are constantly flooded with updates and various news tips about other people’s lives, it has the potential to wreak havoc on your mental health and your love life. It doesn’t give you room to grow into your own. Too much of certain types of news can be overwhelming and can deplete your self-esteem. This is due to the amount of falsified lifestyles presented on social media sites – everyone seems happy and successful, without a care in the world – and it causes you to make comparisons between your life and the lives of others. The truth of the matter is, everyone struggles to get things right, they have daily hiccups and uncertainties just like you, but there’s a chance they are not sharing those moments on social media.
Being able to unplug for a few days will allow you to focus on your own life, giving you the break you need to work a little harder to nurture your goals and actualize your dreams without distraction. Also, your professional goals may begin to seem more attainable because your standard for success will be in comparison to yourself, and not someone on your “newsfeed.” When you are unplugged you can spend more time being present. For instance when you are out on a date you can make more eye-contact, allowing yourself to connect more with the person, instead of scrolling through your phone every few minutes and potentially missing out the subtleties that can enhance your chemistry.
Challenge yourself to unplug for 3-7 days and engage in other activities; maybe read a newspaper or magazine, go for a walk outside, or hit the gym more. Being able to do this will give you the opportunity to clear your mind, recalibrate the steps you are taking toward your goals and to be more in-tune with you. The bottom line is, sometimes you have to unplug just so you can connect.
So when you unplug, what will you be focusing on?
By Essence Cohen
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