Now that you have gauged whether your love tank is full or empty, it is time to discover your love language. There are five ways a person likes to receive and give affection to others. This week, we will focus on the most recognized love language – consensual physical touch.
Many people automatically think of sex when physical touch is discussed. This is completely understandable because sex is constantly portrayed on television and in advertisements. While it is important, sex is only a component of the physical expression of love. For men and women who are practicing celibacy, sexual intercourse is not a realistic option. The tenderness found in kissing, hugging, giving massages and holding hands are significant ways to show care and affection.
Have you ever felt like you really needed a hug? The simple act of feeling someone’s heartbeat close to your chest was enough to melt all of your worries and fears away. Now imagine how you would feel if the request for an embrace was ignored or denied. Not only would the fears and worries persist, but the hurt of rejection would form. For this reason, it is necessary to communicate to your partner the importance of expressing love through touch.
Speaking the love language of physical touch is not easy for everyone. There are some who detest participating in or witnessing public displays of affection (PDA). Saying “I love you”, or taking out the trash may seem easier than holding hands in front of others. However, a subsequent lack of physical touch can damage a relationship.
Physical and emotional closeness is generated through touch. During moments when you cannot find the words to express adoration, a brush on the cheek or kiss on the forehead will quietly show how much you care. Exploring this nonverbal language does not have to begin with PDA. Relatively simple actions can lead to profound results in a relationship. If your partner’s primary love language is physical touch, they will appreciate your willingness to express love one tender kiss at a time.
By Laronda Hollis