Some of you might have noticed that as a child, your father was the person your mother looked to when she needed something done. He was a mechanic, landscaper, and handyman all rolled into one. But you might not have realized that this was your father’s way of expressing his love for your mother and the entire family.
This love language simply involves doing things your partner wants you to do for them. Those who express themselves in this way, feel that love is genuinely expressed when someone takes the time and effort to complete tasks that eliminate stress and produce a sense of accomplishment.
Most men practice acts of service as their primary or secondary language for expressing and receiving love. As a child or young adult, they were taught that a man’s role is to protect and provide for the family. Mowing the lawn and fixing tires on a car are more than just maintenance of basic possessions. They are signs of affection.
Women are also socialized to show how much they care by doing things for others. The act of serving their significant other does not represent submission, but instead shows a cultivated desire to bring pleasure to the lives of those they love. Cleaning the living room and organizing the closet are more than menial chores. If it is important to your partner, it is a sign that you care. Couple should feel comfortable when expressing to one another the importance of acts of service.
Take the time to consider how your partner prefers to express and receive love. Acts of service is a love language that is commonly expressed, but not often recognized as an expression of love. When your significant other takes the time and effort to do something without complaint, it is not an obligation, but a desire to serve.
By Laronda Hollis