As things progress with a certain someone you start to meet people who are significant in their life, such as close friends. Naturally, you may begin to develop some sort of relationship with them. However, it is important to understand that while they are his “bros” they aren’t necessarily yours. Here are some do’s and don’ts to consider before becoming too attached to his friends.
DO include them – Including your man’s friends in certain activities or events could be crucial to the relationship you have. Acknowledging the bond he has with others and accepting the other people in his life could create a better union for the two of you.
DON’T become the 3rd (4th, or 5th) wheel – Despite it being okay to invite them to events, don’t feel that it is okay to invite yourself to things they have planned. Guys don’t want to feel smothered, especially not by another friend’s girl. Let your man hang out with the fellas sometimes, without you tagging along.
DO have boundaries – Recognize the lines of your relationship and don’t cross them. It is not okay to hang out with his friends, text them, or call them randomly without there being a purpose, or more importantly, without your man being around or involved.
DON’T have expectations – It is ideal for his friends and you to get along, but don’t expect it to be the case all the time. Even if his friends do think you’re a cool girl and you all seem to get along, don’t expect them to have your back on situations that arise between you and your mate.
Overall, respect and some sort of cordiality is key. Even if you and his friends create a good, platonic relationship of your own, keep in mind that the only reason you all know one another is through your romantic relationship with your man and that is where the loyalty should remain.
By Ness Baker