During the holiday season, we commonly hear “it is better to give than receive”. But do you constantly find yourself over exerting yourself to constantly appease your man? Take this quiz to see if you are overcompensating just to keep the relationship a float.
Your mate tells you that he finds blondes to be more sexy, yet you are a brunette. What do you do?
Your man’s birthday is coming up and you want to buy him an awesome gift. When you ask him what he wants, he tells you that his friend’s girlfriend just bought him some nice Gucci sneakers (hint, hint). The sneakers are $1200 but your budget is more like $200. What do you do?
Your man car breaks down and asks you to borrow your car so he can run errands. Problem is you have to go to work soon. What do you do?
Your man tells you he wants to spice it up in the bedroom and asks for a threesome. You feel very uncomfortable with this request. What do you do?
Spring break is coming up and you need a break from life. You just want to have fun in the sun with your boo-so you ask him to go on vacation with you. Your mate tells you he doesn’t have enough money saved up. What do you do?
If you answered mostly 1’s: Not too little, not too much…JUST ENOUGH!
You hear him when he says he needs more; all the while telling him what you need in return. Your relationship is the perfect example of a couple exercising communication and compromise. You recognize the importance of making him happy and you do it without compromising your beliefs and values. This leads to a healthy relationship that has nothing but potential for growth!
If you answered mostly 2’s: Are you in a relationship with him, or yourself?
You are so consumed with making yourself happy that you are neglecting the needs of your mate. Yes you should be able to speak your mind, but it is also important to listen and be compassionate to the needs of your mate. Being selfish in a relationship is often a defense mechanism to avoid getting. But being defensive also prevents the chance to find true love .
If you answered mostly 3’s: Yes! You are over doing it! Boarding on Pushover status!
It’s obvious that you love your man, but the bigger question is do you love yourself. It is perfectly fine to accommodate your mate to make him happy but its important not to compromise your own happiness. Try being a bit more honest with your mate. You might be surprised to see how communication can make a major difference. If he is not receptive to your feelings then maybe you should reconsider if he is the one you want to invest your time in.
By Ness Baker