Research shows that happy couples display better health and overall well-being than divorced or single peers. After years of marriage or dating, it is easy for a significant other to feel more like a roommate than your fiery lover. Maybe you’ve grown apart or the routine of work and kids has diminished the spark. Here are a few ways for you to find your way back into love!
- More touching. Skin-to-skin contact sends a rush to the brain that releases more loving feelings. Most long-term couples give short hugs; try holding each other in an extended embrace longer than five seconds. Get that oxytocin flowing!
- Technology diet. Smart phones bring the world to your fingertips; they also shut out what is around you. Try exchanging some screen time for living, breathing face time – and not the iPhone kind either.
- Hello vacay. Responsibilities make money funny and time scarce. Make quality time a priority. If you can’t buy tickets to fly somewhere exotic, a weekend staycation in a neighboring city at a hotel will do.
- Open communication. If there is something you need from your partner, be open and tell them. At the same time, encourage them to discuss what’s on their heart. As you evolve as people, your needs will change and that is OK.
- Show appreciation. When was the last time you told your partner, “Thank you?” The little things matter, too. Send flowers to the job, cook bae’s favorite meal, give honey a massage or pick up a few extra chores around the house.
- Compliment each other. Long-term couples can easily focus on the negative things about their partner. When your partner sees how good they feel when you point out something positive, they will do the same to give you that awesome feeling.
- Have your own interests. If you are unhappy with yourself, you will pick apart your partner. Having something you are passionate about will help keep your heart energetic, alive and focused on positive things.
- Double dates. Funners! Pairing up with couples and watching them interact will help you appreciate your relationship. The adult conversation will be great as you and bae brag on each other’s recent accomplishments or cooking skills.
- Flirt! Anything surprising, sexual, playful or affectionate will do the trick.
- Pillow talk. Remember those days when you couldn’t get enough of each other? Yeah, that kind of pillow talk. This intimate bond will help you remain in tune with what’s going on with your partner.
Everyone wants to be in a happy, healthy relationship. Finding ways to keep the butterflies fluttering will lead to a more happy union.
Written By: Carla DuPont Huger